哈佛大学研究:一个人成为废柴的九大根源,看看你中了几条

据哈佛大学研究:一个人没出息一定有以下九大根源

1

犹豫不决

Indecision

比鲁莽更糟糕的是犹豫不决。

What is worse than recklessness is hesitation.

像墙头草一样摇摆不定的人,无论其他方面多么强大,在生命的竞赛中总是容易被那些坚定地人挤到一边。雷厉风行难免会犯错,但比什么也不敢做强。怀特·黑德说:“畏惧错误就是毁灭进步。”

Those who sways with every wind are just like the grass on the top of a wall, no matter how powerful , are always easy to be defeated by those who has a strong belief. Act vigorously and resolutely will inevitably make mistakes, however, is better than doing nothing. "The fear of error is the destruction of progress," said Whitehead.

2

拖延

Procrastination

很多时候拖延就是逃避问题和懒惰。

Most of the time procrastination is to escape from a problem and laziness.

著名思想家罗曼·罗兰说:“懒惰是很奇怪的东西,它让你以为那是安逸,是休息,是福气;但实际上它所给你的是无聊,是倦怠,是消沉。”

The famous thinker - Romain Rolland said “Laziness is a strange thing, it makes you feel that your situation is comfort, is a rest, is a blessing; but in fact it is boring, tired, depressed.”

3

三分钟热度

Brief period of enthusiasm

世界上有80%的失败都源于半途而废。

80% of the failure is due to give up halfway in the world.

几乎所有的人都有过“雄心勃勃地制定计划,心灰意冷地放弃计划”的经历。

Most of people had the experience of making plans ambitiously, and then had to give up in despair.

4

害怕拒绝

Fear of rejection

厚重而脆弱的自尊

Heavy and fragile self-esteem.

大多数时候,我们在人际关系中感受到的“痛”,都和“感到被拒绝”有关。

Most of the time, the pain that we go through in our interpersonal relationships is always in connection with "you think you were rejected".

5

自我设限

Self-handicapping

杀死自己的潜能力

Kill your latent ability.

拉罗什富科说:平庸的人总是在抱怨自己不懂的东西。

La Rochefoucauld said: mediocre people are always complaining about things they do not understand.

6

逃避现实

Escape from reality

逃避现实者更愿意营造一个属于自己的小世界。

Escapists prefer to create their own little world.

人的悲剧在于眼高手低。

People's tragedy is they have a great ambition but puny ability.

7

总找借口

Excuses

错不在我。

It is not my fault .

人一旦犯了错,第一反应常常是自我辩护。

Once people made a mistake, the first reaction is often self defense.

8

恐惧

Fear

谨小慎微的且懦弱。

Timid and cowardly.

9

拒绝学习

Refuse to learn

你不是寂寞,只是不想学习。

You are not lonely, just don't want to learn.